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With gender issues I'm Egalitarian "believe in the principle that people are equal and deserve equal rights/opportunities". Androgyny, the combination of male and female characteristics.

Is that not the modern woman these days?

 

'what's good for the goose is good for the gander' 

Be yourself because a copy is worth more than an original. 

 

This site is primarily promoting men in skirts and other items from the female wardrobe, but under my thoughts and discussions of Egalitarian, true equality for all I do have a section on mens issues, rights and discrimination based on third party sites. Another sentiment of mine even though many do not affect me directly. All accessed from menus, left hand side. 

 

Men in Skirts 

 

Women in this modern era, and quite rightly so, demand and expect individuality, freedom of choice, freedom of expression, not to be bound by stereotypical expectations and labels. With regards men, many within society still confine men to expected stereotypical expectaions, labels, roles and challenged if questioned or apply similar modern individuality for themselves. 

There is a drive in society these days that to look macho, behave macho is the way to succeed and a requirement, a rite of passage. Well I and quite a few men are not. Your personality and how you behave in life defines you, not your appearance, clothing, job, car, house etc. My stance as a man is how I choose to appear with regards clothing. My right, my choice. There are many men out their like this but sadly hide behind closed doors, dare not even let their thoughts and feelings out for fear of society expectations. Many men on a men in skirts forum and other internet outlets openly say they refrain from it for this fear and many even say their wives and partners forbid it yet still claim their freedom of choice. Society is full of hypocracy and bigotry, but I stand up to this and within my own personal life free myself. I am a better and contented person since than ever before. I note society comments via many media forms on men in skirts but I also note what I expereince within my own life with those I associate with and those who will interact with me.

 

A few interesting quotes:

 

"There's no sin like being a woman. When a man dresses as a woman, the audience laughs. When a woman dresses like a man, no body laughs. They just thought she looked wonderful."

Quentin Crisp 1908 - 1999

As Archbishop Desmund Tutu said "I am because you are" applying the philosophy of Ubuntu.

"...taboos can change swiftly..." and "...like societies of everywhere, we mock the taboos of others yet fail to see the absurdity of our own..."

18th July, 2014  Anne Atkins Thought for the Day - BBC Radio 4.

"...you don't need human rights until you need them. Everybody loves their own human rights; it's just other people's that are problematic."

25th October 2014 Shami Chakrabarti part of an interview with The Independent Magazine.

 

"The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don't know anything about"

Wayne Dyer

 

"Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"

Bernard M Baruch: 1870 - 1965

 "It is better to be hated for what you are than be loved for what you are not"

Andre Gide: 1869 - 1951

"Evolution has yet to transend that simple barrier. We can care deeply, selflessly about those we know but that empathy rarely extends beyond our line of sight" 

From the film Interstella 2015

"The worst kind of loneliness in the world is the isolation that comes from being misunderstood. It can make people lose their grasp on reality." 

From the book Inferno by Dan Brown. The closing sentences of chapter 101.

 

I once read that those who feel uncomfortable with anything different indicates that they are not comfortable with themselves.

 

Clothing should not be gender based, especially in this modern and supposedly open minded and tolerant equal society. I accept women who wear trousers and in my view those that look very manly, they have this right. I accept, and always have that neither gender is above each other. We both have respective roles to play and do complement each other. What I do not accept is those who do and then say you cannot.

Our sex is defined biologically by nature. We are either male or female designed for the relevant reasons. However, gender, is a society term for the expected behaviour of male or female and changes with the passage of time. Just look back through history. However, in the modern day era this gender is becoming very blurred and confusing with some claiming rights, many deny others rights yet allow for many. Dress code is one example. Women can wear socks but men but men frowned upon if wear tights. Women can wear trousers but frowned upon if men wear skirts. Women demand and expect to do male activities, yet it is frowned upon if a man does or chooses to participate in a life style deemed women only to name but some.

 

Since the early 1980's I have seen women’s rights and demands in the clothing area never challenged but men who desire to exercise similar rights are. Society these days boxes men into a tight code of expectations, on traditional clothes, macho, rugged and must not show emotion but then are criticised for showing and also not showing understanding and compassion.

 

Our Society has grown into a rigid and complex set of rules to a point that what we wear has to define who we are, what we are and most important of all what others think of us. However women have been allowed to break this expectation yet at the same time society has this apparent ruling that forbids men. In the strict sense of arguments put forward as to why men cannot wear skirts and clothing they feel comfortable in simply reinforces the view point that quite honestly 90%+ women are cross dressers themselves.

I have often seen comments made by females in forums on this issue (assuming they are females but that’s the trouble with forums) that men should stop bleating and moaning and just do it if that’s how they feel. I agree with this statement and with my wife by my side this I have done.

Many say a man can wear shorts in hot weather. I have never liked shorts neither jeans. Shorts leave legs open to the sun. Apart from rolling up shirt sleeves I have never been a sun lover. My other response here is that although the majority of women today wear trousers for most of the time I have noticed that many as soon as it gets warm default back to skirts! Why not shorts if they are the cool equivalent of trousers. I have over heard many women say they like skirts in warmer weather. 

 

I have come across the following comment in a forum which I fully agree with, "Macho and feminine is a human label to identify the two feelings. The feelings are set by nature and both are in us all. Females are not ashamed to show the softer side unlike some men who frown upon being labelled as such and act as much as possible to dispel any such comments".

 

You ask why a man cannot wear a skirt and the reply is that a skirt is traditionally women’s clothing. What should a man wear - trousers - but that is one of many male clothing that women have moved into. Men generally frown upon skirt wearing and go very defensive in a macho mood. I get the impression that society now considers the wearing of a skirt as a backward step, a sign of inferiority and second class citizen. How is it that quite a few men like wearing dressing gowns at home and not just to go between bathroom and bedroom. Why are men at pool sides, beaches and at times other places they are quite happy to be seen with a towel wrapped around their waist.

Throughout this web site I acknowledge womens rights to freedom of choice including clothing, go for it, but remember it does cut both ways. These women are still women and some will still have a feminine personality but it is no different to men like me and others like me. Yes there is a section of females that behave and think as if they are men and yes there are some men who wish to look and act like a woman, but 90% plus of women who want to show their true feelings and style do so with no negative comment.

Two women living together are just good friends. Two men living together and the initial response is Gay by many, most refine that opinion once the men have ‘proved’ it is not so. Men who want to have the same choice as women are frowned upon. Very one sided.

 

The rest of this site expands on the above in much more detail and at times is direct, blunt and to the point but that is down to society and its selfish and narrow minded attitudes.

 

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